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May 04, 2005

Finally back!

Wow! It has been a long time since I wrote an entry here.

First, I was busy being a doula. I have a new client. She's about 15 minutes pregnant. As they came out from their first doctor's appointment, the boyfriend stopped everyone he made eye contact with. He showed them the ultrasound picture of their little dot!

Two weeks ago, we had a celebration of my cousin Karen's son's life. Those of you who have known me for a while, know that Josh took his life last year. The A Capella group he sang with at Roanoke College, Listening for an Echo, honored Josh with a beautiful garden in his memory.

Last week, my mother ended up having heart surgery. She's fine now.

While in Roanoke I found a great little knitting store called Needle on the Square. I bought a pattern to make Kaity a Ballet Sweater.
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I'm knitting it with the suggested yarn in blue. I've finished the back and most of the left front.

The really big news at Casa DeDoula is, while we were in Virgina, my son and his girlfriend got engaged!


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They're really happy! Benny and I are thrilled for them! Her parents aren't so happy.

In Louisiana, it isn't uncommon for teenagers to become engaged, marry between 18 and 21, and have many, many years together. If that happens for you, you're considered blessed.

Here, in Appalachia, teenager's thoughts, desires, and commitments are of little consequence, in comparison to the thoughts and desires of the parents. The belief is, unless you are the magic age (though no one will say what that age is), you can not know what you want for your life. Nor can you be trusted to make any important decisions for yourself.

Sometimes here, the parents don't stop telling their "children" what to do, even as adults. I have a cousin who did what her parents said, until her father died. It left her prey for the first predator that came along.

I'm glad to be back and looking forward to reading all the blogs I've missed!

Posted by Angi at May 4, 2005 02:55 PM

Comments

Congrats to your son and future DIL! :) And I am glad you are back.

Posted by: Kathleen` at May 4, 2005 04:56 PM

I wish Appalachian parents had the Louisiana mind-set...things would be so much easier! But, what doesn't kill you will just make you stronger.

Posted by: Sarah at May 5, 2005 04:52 PM

Welcome back, Angi. Congratulations to you and your son. I wish them long years of happiness together.

Posted by: Charleen at May 5, 2005 10:26 PM

I got married right after my 24th birthday, in MA, that was considered young. But as someone who was living on her own and making her own decisions from late 18 on, I think that these kind of choices can be made with seriousness at that age. Congratulations to your son and his fiance, and to you for being so supportive! (and happy mothers day!)

Posted by: Amber at May 6, 2005 11:06 AM

It looks like it's been such a wonderful, full week for you. Congratulations on the new dot, the new engagement,
and the new project! have a great week.

Posted by: Lynne at May 9, 2005 10:30 AM

You're having your fill of the ups and the downs lately, aren't you? Mazel tov on your son's engagement.

Posted by: Sharon at May 25, 2005 02:07 PM