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February 20, 2004

A Doula Day

This morning I accompanied L to a Doctor's gyn check. L is my most favorite client. I've had the privilege of attending both of her births. Births with her family are always exciting. At her first birth, there were about 20 family members and friends in the birthing room. As the baby crowned, the atmosphere became quite pep rally like. The excitement built until baby girl emerged, among cheers and tears! We all should be so blessed to have that much love and support. At her second birth, there were only 12 of us in the birthing room, but the love was so thick you could almost see it. Baby boy's life was as celebrated as his sister's had been 13 months earlier.

After L's appointment, I went into a prenatal visit with C. She had not received any prenatal care up to this point. The baby measured, during ultrasound, to be 18+ weeks. C was alone. She looked frightened. She had no smile.

The contrast between the 2 clients was enormous, and yet L and C are lifelong friends.

I'm coming to realize that L is the exception. Since I'm mostly supporting very young women, I'm sure that most of my clients will be C's.

When I came home, I called and registered for the Advanced Teen Support Certification program, through CAPPA . I need to learn how to most effectively support these vulnerable young women. I'm spending as much time as I can, talking with, and mostly listening to what they have to say. They have a lot to say. Most of them just have nobody to listen.

Posted by Angi at February 20, 2004 10:34 PM


They are VERY lucky to have you. What a wonderful, worthwhile, valuable profession you are in.

Posted by: annie at February 21, 2004 10:03 AM

I agree with Annie, it is so wonderful that there are people like you who to assist in the human side of childbirth. How did you get into the doula profession?

Posted by: Amber at February 21, 2004 01:00 PM

Angi, That's great that you will be working with teens. They are such an overlooked population--not children, not adults. When I worked in the domestic violence shelter system they were one of my favorite groups to work with. Since I wasn't their parent, they listened to me and I listened to them.

Posted by: Kathleen at February 21, 2004 03:19 PM

You are certainly a gift from God. The girls that you doula are very fortunate to have someone like you. I know, because you are my dearest friend and you have touched my life in so many ways. I love you.

Posted by: Roxanne at February 26, 2004 08:03 PM